"Fatties"

Why is it so hard to love a fat, obese or overweight person? Why is it so hard to believe someone else cold love a fat person? Why is it so hard to believe that a “fattie” can be loved, admired or envied? Is our society really that superficial? If so, that may be the most disheartening trait of our society.

Okay, before you all wonder why I’m rambling about this “nonsense”, I’ll explain where it started. Last night, I was watching Cold Case (one of my favorite shows) and it was about an overweight girl, named Martha, who was murdered after a dating service fiasco in 1989. In 2006, a Latin hottie named Ramone committed suicide while watching Martha’s Love Juncture video and his suicide reopened Martha's "cold" case. Every cop on the show thought it was impossible that Rrrramone (that’s me rolling my “R’s”) could be interested in this girl. One cop even went as far as to suggest that maybe Rrrramone had some sort of fetish. It left the impression that people who love or enjoy the company of a fat person must be mentally ill - should that really be the message that the media or Hollywood should be sending to the public?

Later in the show, when the police find a secret room of Rrrramone’s, that suggests he stalked and possibly murdered fat women, it was almost as though it was confirmed – it’s impossible to care for, love or be attracted to a fat person. They even had to take it a step further when it was established that he didn’t stalk and murder these women, he simply conned them out of everything they had – naturally, because fat women are stupid too. Finally, when I didn’t think it could get any worse; Martha finds out that Rrrramone is conning her (when she walks in on him stealing her TV) and she is so desperate to keep this arse that she offers to be his accomplice in marrying, conning and murdering other fat girls so that they could be together and be rich.

Come on! Why are alcoholics, drug addicts and gamblers considered to be infected with a disease, but fat people are merely considered to be weak, lazy or disgusting? Most overweight people are victims of the same disease that alcoholics, druggies or gamblers suffer – addiction!

As a matter of fact, overweight people are far more affected by addiction. If you think about it, when alcoholics, druggies or gamblers are rehabilitated, they can quit their addiction cold turkey and are well on their way to recovery. But, what no one seems to understand is that overweight people always have to eat. They aren’t able to just quit and avoid their addiction. They are forced to face their addiction every day, three times a day. I think moderation is amazingly more difficult than avoidance.

At the end of the show, it was revealed that the fat girls were all so desperate for a good-looking man that they were willing to kill each other for this man. It was one of Rrrramone’s earlier “fat girls” that killed Martha because Martha told this girl that she was going to kill Rrrramone for making her do these horrible things. The other girl couldn’t live without Rrrramone, so she killed Martha. I had hopes that it would end with Rrrramone actually caring for Martha. Afterall, I still think it’s possible to be attracted to an overweight person. I guess, maybe, I’m the only one. Will society ever get past outer beauty and recognize inner beauty or even accept overweight people as beautiful? Maybe we have another 50 years for that. I think that’s sad.